Biblical Conflict Resolution for Marriage: Fighting Fair with Faith and Forgiveness | Under God Podcast Episode 243
What if the fights in your marriage could actually make you stronger? In this powerful session from the Strong Marriage Conference, Pastor Lee and Tonya Wilson share transformational wisdom from 36 years of navigating conflict God's way.
Every couple fights. The Wilsons don't pretend otherwise—they openly share their own battles, including an expensive communication failure involving a Chevy Blazer that taught them what NOT to do. But more importantly, they reveal the biblical framework that turns destructive arguments into opportunities for deeper intimacy and understanding.
The session opens with a crucial reframe: fighting isn't the problem. HOW you fight determines whether conflict builds your marriage or tears it apart. Pastor Lee introduces three essential principles—fight fair, fight in faith, and fight with forgiveness—that form the foundation for healthy disagreement.
Tonya brings powerful perspective on remaining steadfast, drawing from conversations with couples married over 50 years. Her insight that "it's easy because we know what we should do, but it's hard because it's not always the easiest thing to do" captures the real challenge every married couple faces.
What You'll Discover:
✅ Why different backgrounds create predictable conflict patterns in marriage
✅ The four types of conflict every couple experiences: personalities, priorities, assumptions, and likes/dislikes
✅ How the Wilsons' different upbringings around money created early marriage tension
✅ The five T's of healthy communication: timing, topic, tone, truthful, not toxic
✅ A practical strategy using restaurants to have difficult conversations safely
✅ Six reasons couples throw in the towel and how to guard against each one
Scripture References:
📖 1 Timothy 6:12 – "Fight the good fight of faith"
📖 Philippians 2:13 – God works in you to will and do His good pleasure
📖 1 Corinthians 15:58 – Stand firm, let nothing move you
📖 Mark 3:25 – A house divided against itself cannot stand
📖 Ephesians 4:31-32 – Get rid of bitterness; be kind and forgiving
📖 Amos 3:3 – How can two walk together unless they agree?
This is Part 2 of our Strong Marriage Conference series featuring Pastor Lee and Tonya Wilson.
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