EPISODE 0243 | Strong Marriage Part 2: We Had A Fight
THESE NOTES ACCOMPANY EPISODE 0243
Marriage isn't about avoiding conflict—it's about learning how to handle it in a God-honoring way. In this episode, Pastors Lee and Tonya Wilson pull back the curtain on their own marriage, sharing real stories and practical wisdom on how to fight fair, fight with faith, and fight toward forgiveness. Whether you're newly married or have decades together, this conversation will help you stop keeping score and start building unity that lasts.
HIGHLIGHTS
Every couple fights—but not every couple knows how to do it well.
“Fighting fair” means keeping your tone, timing, topic, and truth in check.
Don’t assume your spouse knows what you’re thinking. Say it.
Conflict doesn’t always look like shouting—it might look like silence, retreating, or unresolved tension.
Outside voices can be helpful or harmful. Choose wisely who you let in.
Throwing in the towel usually starts with financial stress, unforgiveness, loss of trust, or unmet expectations.
Forgiveness isn’t weakness—it’s spiritual warfare against bitterness.
Make space for your spouse’s likes and differences… even if it’s puzzles or football.
Communication is key: listen not to respond, but to understand.
Your marriage isn’t a competition. When your spouse wins, you both win.
SCRIPTURES
1 Timothy 6:12 – “Fight the good fight of the faith...”
Philippians 2:13 – “For it is God who works in you to will and to act...”
1 Corinthians 15:58 – “Stand firm... your labor is not in vain.”
Ephesians 4 – “Be kind and compassionate to one another...”
Amos 3:3 – “Can two walk together unless they agree?”
Mark 3:25 – “A house divided against itself cannot stand.”
Resources
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