EPISODE 0245 | The Naked Truth: 36 Years of Marriage Unscripted
THESE NOTES ACCOMPANY EPISODE 0245
In this candid, unscripted session, Pastors P. Lee and Tonya open up about marriage, ministry, sex, and everything in between. With humor, vulnerability, and decades of hard-earned wisdom, they take turns answering real questions—without preparation or filters—about what makes their marriage thrive and where they still need growth. From love languages to empty nesting to navigating ministry as a couple, this episode is full of laughter, honesty, and practical encouragement for couples at any stage of the journey.
Whether you’re newly married or decades in, this is a masterclass in communication, mutual respect, and spiritual unity.
Main Topics Covered:
Why marriage sometimes feels like reality TV—and why that’s not a bad thing
When they knew they were falling in love (including shaving cream pranks and Sandy Patty ballads)
How menopause, ministry, and mutual respect impact intimacy
The challenge of prioritizing your spouse in busy seasons
Love languages and why they shift over time
The art of learning how to have hard conversations with grace
Key Takeaways:
Unfiltered doesn’t mean unkind. Being real with your spouse doesn’t have to come at the cost of gentleness or respect.
Healthy marriages evolve. What works in one season might need to be redefined in another.
Sex is sacred—and seasonal. It’s less about frequency and more about connection, presence, and vulnerability.
Communication is discipleship. How we talk to our spouse reveals the state of our own heart.
Real connection takes intentional time. In ministry and marriage, what’s scheduled is what survives.
Resources
The Better Planner™ is a personal planner designed by Pastor Stephen to help you map out all the different aspects of success and personal growth on your way to better.
The foundation of the Better Planner™ is the practice of defining and reaching your personal vision. The other principles for growth all integrate with and flow out of this essential step. As you develop and record the insights you receive from God and His design for your life, the Better Planner™ will lead you through a step-by-step process to become better.
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